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Wishing You A Happy And Safe Holiday Season
Lady Eagles Heading
in the Right Direction
By Gregg McMullin
The sports scene at El Segundo high school
is gearing up for a successful winter session,
especially on the girl’s side. With the way
the girl’s water polo, soccer and basketball
teams are playing, there could be Pioneer
League championships in the New Year. The
athletic department said goodbye to their
athletic trainer and trusted friend, and the
boy’s water polo awards were handed out.
Top Ranked Girls Water Polo
Team Making It Look Easy
The latest CIF Southern Section winter polls
are out, and for the first time in memory, the
Lady Eagles are the top-ranked team in Division
4. The high-scoring Eagles have made
their winning ways look easy. They play in
the Pioneer League, so facing Bay League
teams was supposed to challenge them. All
the Eagles have done was defeat Mira Costa,
Redondo, Peninsula, and recently Palos Verdes
18-3 in non-league games.
On a cool, rainy day, El Segundo got out to
a quick 8-2 first-half lead. Emmie Ramirez,
Avary Torres, and Stephanie Rodriguez have
been the team’s top scorers so far, and all
went to work against the Palos Verdes Sea
Kings. In the first period, Ramirez scored
the first of her game-high eight goals on a
power strike.
Torres, who scored four times, opened the
scoring in the second half with a goal from
short range. Then Ramirez scored back-toback
goals to close the third-period scoring.
The first one came on an assist from Sally
Gonzalez and the next one on an assist from
Rodriguez to make it 11-2. In the fourth period,
Valerie Mora scored three goals, and the
Eagles made it look easy in the lopsided win.
The Eagles played in the Inaugural Claremont
Holiday Tournament and went 3-1
to secure third place. In the opener, they
dismantled Troy 20-5 and backed that up
with an 18-2 win over Charter Oak in the
second game. In the third game against Los
Alamitos, the Eagles fell 20-4 but defeated
Poway 17-7 to take third place.
In the first two games, the Eagles had
Avary Torres closes in for a score against Palos Verdes.
Monday, Dec 13th
A petty theft report was taken at 1442 hours
from the 700 block of South Pacific Coast
Highway.
One female adult was arrested at 0052
hours from the 3100 block of 139th Street in
Hawthorne for driving a stolen vehicle and
one LASD felony warrant.
Tuesday, Dec 14th
One male adult was arrested at 1129 hours
from Hillcrest Street and Maple Avenue for
driving a stolen vehicle, grand theft auto,
possession of a controlled substance and one
CHP felony warrant.
One female adult was arrested at 1242 hours
from Holly Avenue and Pacific Coast Highway
for possession of a controlled substance for
sales and possession of a controlled substance
A recovered stolen vehicle report was taken
at 1052 hours from the 700 block of Bayonne
Street. A Kia Optima was recovered.
A misdemeanor hit and run report was
taken at 1435 hours from the 700 block of
South Pacific Coast Highway, vehicle versus
parked vehicle.
One male adult was arrested at 2322 hours
from Douglas Street and Rosecrans Avenue
Dear Neighborhood Therapist,
I want to give the people in my life something
truly meaningful this holiday season.
Most people in my inner circle, including
my partner, tend to buy the things we want
when we can afford them. Are there any
non-material gifts I can give them that will
make their lives better?
– All Gifted Out, El Segundo
Dear All Gifted Out,
Are you sure you want to do this? Walk
away. This is your chance. Take the easy
road, my friend, and just spend your hardearned
cash on some pajamas you think they
might like, And be sure to provide the return
receipt in case they don’t. Nobody will fault
you for it. Something cozy and comfortable
will definitely make their lives better.
Oh, you insist on trying to be helpful? A
really nice holiday gift would be a commitment
to take a look at the amount of mental
work your loved ones do in order to make
your life better, and then pick up some of the
slack. I suspect it will also be very helpful
for these relationships.
How would you do that? Pay attention to
the idea of mental work, and to the times
you are asking others to do things you could
do yourself. It won’t be zero, and nor should
it be. Of course, we should ask things of
each other. But mental work comes in many
forms, and when we have too much of it, it
affects our lives dramatically. By definition,
one cannot give one’s full attention to more
than one thing at the same time.
So, pay attention to when mental work is
being done by others for your benefit, and
offer help when possible.
When we ask each other to do little or
big things, it’s work. When we ask them to
think about something, it’s work: organizing
the family bill paying. Deciding where to
go to dinner; choosing Christmas, Hanukkah
and other holiday presents; planning a
large party; planning a small party; making
the grocery list; finding a babysitter. All of
this is work, and we should recognize it and
value it as such.
Do you ask people to come to you most
of the time, instead of going to see them?
Do you change the subject when someone
wants to talk about something, you’re not
that interested in? Do you speak to people
when they are trying to speak with someone
else, thus forcing them to try to listen to
two people at once (and likely frustrating
them immensely)? Do you say some version
of, “Look, here’s what the deal is…” even
when someone else has a different view from
yours? If any of these things are true, it may
be helpful to ask yourself, or someone you
trust, if these positions are beneficial to your
relationships.
If you’re still in, then consider a pledge
to make less mental work for those people
around you. And if you are able to enjoy
yourselves, even better.
Please write to tom@tomandrecounseling.
com or text to 310.776.5299 with questions
about handling what is affecting your life,
your family, the community or the world.
Tom Andre is a Licensed Marriage & Family
Therapist (LMFT119254). The information
in this column is for educational purposes
only and nothing herein should be construed
as professional advice or the formation of a
therapeutic relationship. •
See Police Reports, page 4
See Eagles, page 6
Herald Publications will be Closed on:
Friday, December 24
We wish everyone a safe and happy holiday season.