Page 4 March 3, 2022 EL SEGUNDO HERALD
Classifieds
The deadline for Classified Ad submission and payment is Noon on Tuesday to appear in Thursday’s paper. Advertisements must be
submitted in writing by mail, fax or email. You may pay by cash, check, or credit card (Visa or M/C over the phone).
Errors: Please check your advertisements immediately. Any corrections and/or changes in an ad must be requested prior to the following
Tuesday deadline in order to receive a credit. A credit will be issued for only the first time the error appears. Multiple runs will only
be credited for the first time the error appears. No credit will be issued for an amount greater than the cost of the advertisement.
Beware: Employment offers that suggest guaranteed out-of-state or overseas positions may be deceptive or unethical in nature. If
you have any doubts about the nature of a company, contact the local office of the Better Business Bureau, (213) 251-9696. Herald
Publications does not guarantee that the advertiser’s claims are true nor does it take responsibility for those claims.
Employment
JAANUU seeks VP of Operations
in El Segundo, CA to develop &
evaluate integrated sys for industrial
production processes. Travel approx
10% of the time to unanticipated
client and/or vendor sites in US & int’l
for meetings & training. Send resume
w/ad: 2301 Rosecrans Ave. #2150,
El Segundo, CA 90245. Attn: HR/VM
Room For Rent
Room for Rent; 346 Virginia, El
Segundo. All house privileges. $900.
Large upper unit; 2 BD/1 BTH;
707 E Grand, El Segundo. $2100.
310.365.1481 or 310.641.2148.
House For Rent
$1,970/MONTH, $3,900 TO MOVE
IN, FRONT YARD/BACK YARD
ACCESS, 2 BD/1 FULL BTH, w
Washer & Dryer. In Mid West Los
Angeles. 323.937.5687.
Duplex For Rent
In duplex, 3 BD, 2 BTH. $3,000/
month, $6,000 to move in. No Pets.
In West Los Angeles. 323.937.5687.
Wanted
Vinyl, records, vinyl, anything
musical. Collectibles/antiques.
Typewriters, sewing machines,
military, silver, Japan, records, stamps,
coins, jewelry, Chinese, ANYTHING.
Buy/Sell/Trade. We sell for you on
EBAY. Studio Antiques, El Segundo.
310.322.3895.
To appear in next week’s paper, submit
your Classifed Ad by Noon on Tuesday.
Late Ads will incur a $20.00 late fee.
Your Neighborhood Therapist
Dear Neighborhood Therapist,
Many members of my extended family do
not get along that well, but I get along with
everyone. I keep trying to get them together,
but every time I try to solve one problem, it
seems to create another, and I’m getting really
tired of it. It feels like whack-a-mole, and I
can’t fix it. I feel like it’s going to make me
resent everyone if I keep doing this. Any tips
for getting everyone to get along?
– Frustrated by Family, Manhattan Beach
Dear Frustrated,
There is very little that’s as unpopular as a
problem we can’t seem to fix, in part because
unfixable problems are not supposed to exist.
Think of all the rallying cries we hear: We
got this! We’ll get over this! If we try hard
enough, nothing can stop us! You can do anything
you want to if you put your mind to it!
Our culture cheers the phrase “don’t take
no for an answer.” The idea that something
may not be available, or possible, feels like
sacrilege. “Of course we can do it.” “Of
course you can have that.”
These are lovely ideas. But sometimes they
conflict with the reality of a situation. To take
an extreme example, you cannot always solve
an illness, or a natural disaster, or a war.
Many Americans have internalized the
idea that there is not a single problem that
we cannot solve, but running into problems
we cannot change or get rid of happens all
the time. That disconnect sometimes comes
with a healthy dose of shame, thinking we
should be better. Or anger, thinking we’ve
been tricked somehow. Some problems are
with us for a long time, or forever.
Your situation sounds tricky, and full of
moving parts. I invite you to consider not
trying to solve it. Instead, what about trying
to live with the problem by trying to gain,
at first, just a little bit of distance from it?
Imagine a sheet of paper held right in front
of your eyes, blocking your view of everything.
Now imagine that this sheet of paper
represents the problem. Push the paper back
an inch, and then another inch, and another.
The world begins to come into view. The
problem hasn’t changed. It hasn’t even gone
very far. Being able to see the problem, and
to see what surrounds it, is often the difference
between feeling terrible and feeling not
terrible. And that’s a big deal.
Gaining distance from the problem is hard
work, and often requires the help of others
- therapists, trusted friends, pastors - but it
can usually be done.
Is this always the solution? Of course not.
But it’s worth weighing the costs of trying to
solve the problem versus the costs of living
with it. What are the additional costs - in
frustration and stress - of trying to solve a
problem that may not have a solution?
Please write to tom@tomandrecounseling.
com or text to 310.776.5299 with questions
about handling what is affecting your life,
your family, the community or the world.
Tom Andre is a Licensed Marriage & Family
Therapist (LMFT119254). The information
in this column is for educational purposes
only and nothing herein should be construed
as professional advice or the formation of a
therapeutic relationship. •
“The strength of a family,
like the strength of an army,
lies in its loyalty to each other.”
– Mario Puzo
El Segundo Herald* • Hawthorne Press Tribune*
Inglewood Daily News* • Lawndale News*
EL SEGUNDO OFFICE • 531 MAIN ST, # 1160 • El Segundo • CA • 90245
Ad Sales / Legal Notices / Marketing: (310) 322-1830
Classifieds / Real Estate: (310) 322-1831 • www.heraldpublications.com
Staff and Departments
Editor-in-Chief: Heidi Maerker
Classifieds: Clara Nilles • class@heraldpublications.com
DBA: Debbie Waite • dba@heraldpublications.com • For Fictitious Business Name (DBAs) filings
Display Ad Sales: Debbie Waite • marketing@heraldpublications.com
Production: Michael Gonzales • ads@heraldpublications.com
Legals: Debbie Waite • legalnotices@heraldpublications.com
For legal notices, name changes, obituaries
Letters to the Editor: letters@heraldpublications.com
Marketing: Debbie Waite • marketing@heraldpublications.com
Real Estate: Clara Nilles • graphics@heraldpublications.com • For new realtors, contracts, ads
General Inquires: web@heraldpublications.com • For general questions or announcements
Our website can no longer take inquires or emails
* Our newspapers are adjudicated of general circulation accordance with the laws of California. El Segundo Herald, Case Number 372819;
Hawthorne Press Tribune, Case Number 187530; Inglewood Daily News, Case Number 601550; Lawndale Tribune, Case Number 479346.