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Your Neighborhood Therapist
Dear Neighborhood Therapist:
My friend is a kind, funny, thoughtful human
who seems increasingly captured by conspiracy
theories. This has led to a lot of problems for
my friend at work, and though I have tried
to be patient and debunk these theories with
facts, I haven’t had any luck. Our relationship
is good, but I am extremely worried about the
effect that these beliefs are going to have on
my friend’s relationships with other people.
Should I be as worried as I am?
– Pretty Darn Concerned in El Segundo..
Dear Pretty Darn Concerned,
Some of the most gratifying work I do is
helping people stand up for their beliefs and
their preferred way of living, especially when
it goes against what might be considered
“normal.” The pursuit of “normal” is catnip
for anxiety. Living up to standards that we do
not set ourselves is exhausting.
Many people want to play by their own rules,
and often they have good reason to do so: many
of the written and unwritten rules that our society
has set up are deeply unjust. Ask Rosa Parks.
Rule breakers and holders of unpopular opinions
make disproportionate amounts of history.
Most of us do have an unpopular opinion
about something. If your friend insisted that
Godfather Part 3 was the best of the series, I
would urge you to be respectful even if you
disagree. We are all entitled to wish the world
would be certain ways.
I wish everyone accepted and celebrated the
different and the unfamiliar. I wish popular
kids would not be mean to unpopular kids. I
wish that bullies did not exist. I wish that our
government valued freelancers as much as nineto
fivers. I wish that our culture did a better
job of recognizing that a college degree is not
always in everyone’s best interest. I wish that
our tax system valued committed partnerships
as much as legal marriages.
The problem, of course, is that none of those
things are true. Bullies exist from kindergarten
to nursing homes. Freelancers have more trouble
accessing unemployment and other benefits.
Many employers prefer college graduates. I
wish it wasn’t this way, but it is.
I would love it if things were different, but
I’d have to change an entire economic and
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In Sound of Metal, a Musician Loses
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Morgan Rojas for cinemacy.com
As a musician, the most important instrument
you have is your hearing. Sound
of Metal, written and directed by Darius
Marder and story by Derek Cianfrance
(Blue Valentine), is a dramatic exploration
of lost identity, and the challenge to accept
a new normal.
Riz Ahmed plays Ruben, a heavy metal
drummer who unexpectedly starts to go deaf
before playing a show with his bandmate and
partner, Lou (Olivia Cooke). Terrified and
Sound of Metal, courtesy of Amazon Studios.
confused, Ruben learns that with only 20%
of his hearing capacity left, his lifestyle as
a touring musician is forced to stop. Ruben
is stubborn at first to accept his new reality,
which includes a residency at a hearing
impaired rehabilitation facility of sorts. Lead
by a well-intentioned man named Joe, (Paul
Raci), Ruben’s struggles eventually turn into
small victories as he begins to welcome the
beauty in the unknown.
The way director Darius Marder works with
sound, which includes the piercing ring of
tinnitus and the strain of trying to understand
muffled conversations, is eerily gripping.
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from lead Riz Ahmed (one that will certainly
be discussed come awards season), Sound
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Metal really puts you into the mindset of
a character who never got to choose. But
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How hard would it be to accept the “new
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Sound of Metal is being distributed by
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Finance
Budget-Friendly Tips For A Safe
And Joyous Holiday 2020
(BPT) - Uncertainty continues into the
2020 holiday season, with limited travel,
canceled events and strict budgets changing
how Americans will celebrate this year. According
to a recent Coinstar Holiday Survey,
the majority of Americans said COVID-19
will influence how they celebrate the holidays.
Fortunately, by thinking outside the box
and keeping a positive attitude, you can stay
healthy, stretch funds and create merry moments.
Let these tips inspire you to celebrate
the holiday season safely and on budget:
Traditions bring comfort and hope, so rather
than forgoing beloved activities due to coronavirus
concerns, get creative instead. Plan
a car caravan to look at holiday lights and
have everyone keep a scorecard of favorite
houses including winners for most creative,
brightest, funniest and overall best. Set up a
video chat and bake favorite holiday treats in
real time from afar. Relatives can virtually
tuck kids into bed by reading classic holiday
books through a free digital video platform.
These activities are safer to enjoy and will
create meaningful memories to make the
season special.
You can still have a wonderful holiday
even on a tight budget. A budget-friendly
option is to make it a homemade holiday this
year. Face masks and hand sanitizer are great
stocking stuffers that you can make and will
be appreciated, especially this year. Patterns
are readily available to make face masks and
you can find recipes online for creating custom
hand sanitizer. Another idea is to choose all
handmade gifts from Etsy or local artists in
your area, so you can give unique presents
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