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Obituaries
Barbara Celeste Ernest
Barbara Celeste Ernest, April
11, 1928 - March 17, 2021. Our
beloved mother, grandmother,
aunt, cousin, friend and neighbor,
passed away on one of her
favorite holidays – St. Patrick’s
Day. Barbara was born in Los
Angeles to Annah Moran and
US Army recruiter Henry Moran.
She was proud of being an LA
girl from John C. Fremont High
School who loved LA sunshine
and its beaches. She was predeceased by
both parents and all of her siblings – Lenora
Moran, Henry Moran, Jr., Rosemary Moran,
Doreen Riddle, and Jacquelyn Silliman.
Barbara met her future husband, Virgil Ernest,
at the US Naval Station in China Lake, CA
where he was stationed as a Marine and she
was working as a civil servant, marrying in
1948. Besides finding each other, they made
lifelong friends during their time there as well
as at Cal Poly SLO where they lived for four
happy years. Then this LA city girl became a
farmer’s wife in Tulare CA. Along the way,
Barbara and Virgil became parents to ten
children. She always said that her life’s goal
was to have a large family, and she sure did.
Family connections were most important to her.
People always knew where Barbara
was because she could be heard laughing,
claimed to be the instigator of the Ernest
family reunions where she made sure her
children were going to “know their cousins.”
Vacations almost always involved visiting family
members around the US. She especially
loved Hawaii! Through all of these events
and travels , she always had a camera at hand
and painstakingly created photo albums of
them all, thereby leaving her descendants a
huge photographic record of her/their lives.
This LA girl returned to the South Bay
when she and Virgil moved to El Segundo
in 1966 where she worked as a bookkeeper/
office manager for several local businesses.
Barbara was a faithful parishioner at St. Anthony
Catholic Church, where her children
attended school, and was honored a few
years ago by the parish for her many years
of devotion. •
Police Reports
talking, or singing. She loved
organizing family events and
designing projects for home
improvements. Everything was a
subject for a party, even “work
parties” where huge numbers of
family members would gather at
someone’s home and spend the
day working on home improvements,
all organized by Mom,
while at the same time telling
stories and laughing. Also, she
Love Thy Neighbor
Dear El Segundoans,
The Herald staff and I only know so many El Segundoans,
but we want to learn about more of you. With 8,000
residents, we’re sure there are some gems we may have
overlooked or not been aware of them. Do you have an
interesting friend, neighbor or student? With most of El
Segundo sports and events on hold, we are looking to do
more El Segundo residents’ profiles. All you have to do
is ask their permission and send us
their contact information. Of course,
if you find yourself fascinating, send
us your information too.
– Best to you all. HM.
Send your suggestions in
to letters@heraldpublications.com
Please have your nominee’s approval before you submit them as a nominee.
Police Briefs
On November 6, 2020 at 11:00 a.m.,
Carla (last name withheld by request) called
ESPD to report a catalytic converter theft
in progress. Carla watched a Jeep Grand
Cherokee drive past her residence, reverse,
then stop in front of her neighbor’s house.
She watched as a male subject got out of the
vehicle, walk onto her neighbor’s driveway
and in between the neighbor’s parked cars.
The subject then returned to his vehicle and
drove away. Carla immediately thought this
was odd and called ESPD to report what she
saw. While on the phone with dispatch the
Jeep returned. Carla continued speaking to
dispatch as she observed two males get out
of the Jeep and crawl under her neighbor’s
vehicles. Carla could hear loud sawing noises
coming from the area. Carla also witnessed
one subject holding an electric saw.
When officers arrived, Carla was able to
give a detailed description of the vehicle she
saw and the direction they left in. Officers
were able to locate the vehicle and Carla was
able to positively identify the two suspects.
Both suspects, along with the driver of the
Jeep, were arrested for Grand Theft. Thank
you, Carla for reporting suspicious activity!
“See Something, Say Something!” •
Your Neighborhood Therapist
Dear Neighborhood Therapist,
I have been a perfectionist my whole life.
It has always been a struggle for me but I
have been able to handle it. Now I feel like
it is too much and I want to let go of it. Is
there anything I can do? It feels like I would
have to change my personality, and I’m not
sure I can do that, or want to do that.
– Perfectly Miserable, El Segundo
Dear Perfectly Miserable,
We celebrate perfect - in sports, like
gymnastics and baseball - but also countless
other aspects of our lives. Pundits breathlessly
hail a “perfect” speech and Instagram lights
up at a meal “perfectly” prepared. The list
goes on. We are a perfection-loving society.
No wonder you’re feeling miserable: while
we celebrate “perfection,” we are also quick
to jump on mistakes. In the same way that
it is so much easier to tear something down
than it is to build it up, it is much easier
to notice flaws than it is to appreciate the
effort and skill that goes into any creation,
perfect or not.
I have a few questions and thought experiments
that should get you started in
considering your next steps.
First, what is perfectionism, to you? When
I think about what we commonly consider to
be “perfectionism,” I imagine a wide range
of possible definitions, for example: a strong
dedication to doing the best possible work in a
particular craft; feeling intense anxiety because
everything you do will harshly scrutinized and
judged by others; a sense of knowing what
good work is, and that you could always do
just a little bit better. But that’s me. When
you think about perfectionism as it applies to
your life, how would you define it?
Next, what if you think about perfectionism
as something - or better yet, someone - you
live with, rather than who you are? If you
have lived with perfectionism your whole
life, it does not seem reasonable to expect
that such an old acquaintance will go easily
into the night; nor do I think that the total
extinction of perfectionism should necessarily
be your goal. Is it possible that Perfectionism
- let’s go ahead and give him a capital
P for a proper name - has been beneficial
to you in some ways?
More importantly, how would you describe
the voices of Perfectionism? Who are these
voices and what supports them? We already
mentioned the voices of Perfectionism we
are all exposed to when we participate in
society. Is Perfectionism’s voice also (I am
using the metaphor of a voice but you may
prefer a different one) that of an unreasonably
demanding parent or teacher or authority
figure? Perhaps it is the voice of a friend, or
partner, or a childhood bully. The old “know
your enemies” adage applies: the better you
know the problem, the more effectively you
will be able to confront it.
This is not easy, but once you start the
process of scrutinizing Perfectionism - turning
the tables, you might say - the paths forward
may very well begin to reveal themselves.
Please write to tom@tomandrecounseling.
com or text to 310.776.5299 with questions
about handling what is affecting your life,
your family, the community or the world.
Tom Andre is a Licensed Marriage & Family
Therapist (LMFT119254). The information
in this column is for educational purposes
only and nothing herein should be construed
as professional advice or the formation of a
therapeutic relationship. •
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Monday, March 15th
A theft by false pretense report was taken
at 1059 hours from the 700 block of Sierra
Street. The suspect tricked the victim into
purchasing gift cards.
A misappropriation of lost property report
was taken at 1429 hours from the 700 block
of North Nash Street.
A burglary (vehicle) report was taken at 2017
hours from the 1100 block of East Imperial
Avenue. Unknown suspect(s) stole property
from the victim’s vehicle.
A burglary (vehicle) report was taken at 2026
hours from the 800 block of North Pacific
Coast Highway. Unknown suspect(s) stole
property from the victim’s vehicle.
A misdemeanor evading report was taken at
0117 hours from El Segundo Boulevard and
Pacific Coast Highway.
Traffic accident (no injuries) occurred at
0129 hours from the 100 block of West Imperial
Avenue, vehicle versus parked vehicle.
One male adult was arrested at 0215 hours
from the 100 block of West Imperial Avenue
for misdemeanor DUI.
One male adult was arrested at 0147 hours
from the 100 block of West Imperial Avenue
for possession of a loaded firearm.
Tuesday, March 16th
One male adult was arrested at 0702 hours
from the 300 block of North Pacific Coast
Highway for one outstanding parole warrant
and one outstanding misdemeanor warrant out
Riverside County Sheriffs Department.
One female adult was detained at 1319 hours
from the 300 block of Main Street and was
transported to Harbor Exodus for a 72-hour
psychological evaluation.
One male adult was arrested at 1331 hours
from Maple Avenue and Nash Street for driving
a stolen vehicle, taking a controlled substance
into a jail, possession of drug paraphernalia,
and possession of a controlled substance.
An injury report was taken at 1334 hours
from the 500 block of West Sycamore Avenue.
Male adult tripped and fell while walking on
the sidewalk.
An attempt stolen vehicle report was taken
at 1332 hours from the 200 block of West Imperial
Avenue. Unknown suspect(s) attempted
to steal the victim’s vehicle.
One female adult was arrested at 1331 hours
from Maple Avenue and Nash Street for misappropriation
of lost property and possession
of drug paraphernalia.
One male adult was detained at 2034 hours
from the 900 block of North Pacific Coast
Highway and transported to Martin Luther King
Hospital for a 72- hour psychiatric evaluation.
An identity theft report was taken at 0126
hours from the 500 block of North Pacific
Coast Highway. The 530.5(C)(1)PC suspect
was subsequently issued a citation and released.
See Police Reports, page 6