EL SEGUNDO HERALD January 23, 2020 Page 3
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Letters
El Segundo Priorities
The January 16 cover story is a bit misleading.
This appears to be a (paid?) advertisement.
With all the important issues we share as a
community is it necessary to print this on the
first page as news? My opinion is that Real
Estate agents do not really “serve” the community.
That is how they make their living.
Also the implication that resident’s yards are
lacking without purchasing this “service” is a
bit insulting. Please Herald. Don’t be so obvious
in favoritism. Somebody get a BBQ discount?
– Richard Fitzgerald
Mr. Fitzgerald, I’m sorry, you didn’t care
for our business profile. Your letter goes on
to insult a whole industry of hardworking
professionals. I believe El Segundo realtors,
do serve the community. As my customers
they support your community newspaper. They
also volunteer all over town, donate tons of
money, and one is your city councilmember.
Now Gina, about that discounted BBQ...... HM
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Calendar of Events
Deadline for Calendar items is the prior
Thursday by noon. Calendar items are $1
per word up to 25 words. Email listings to
marketing@heraldpublications.com. We accept
Visa and MasterCard.
THURSDAY, JAN. 23
• El Segundo Certified Farmer’s Market, 3:00
PM. – 7:00 PM., located on Main Street,
Downtown El Segundo
• Special Education Parent Night, 6:00 PM.
– 7:00 PM., Richmond Street School, 615
Richmond Street, Call: 310-606-6831
• Family Story Time, 6:00 PM. – 7:00 PM.,
El Segundo Public Library, 111 W. Mariposa
Ave., Call: 310-524-2726.
FRIDAY, JAN. 24
• Bingo, 1:00 PM. - 3:00 PM., 50 Plus, $3.00
minimum, Senior Club of El Segundo, 339
Sheldon Street
SATURDAY, JAN. 25
• Saturday Night Dance, 7:00 PM. – 9:45 PM.,
Cost: $5.00 Per Person, Adults of all Ages
Welcome, Senior Club of El Segundo, 339
Sheldon St., Call: 310-524-2705.
SUNDAY, JAN. 26
• Bridge & Pinochle Groups, 11:30 AM. – 3:45
PM, Senior Club of El Segundo, 339 Sheldon
St., Call Pam at: 310-318-2856.
MONDAY, JAN. 27
• ESCPTA Executive Board Meeting, 7:00
PM., ESUSD District Office Board Room
• Canasta Group, 11:30 AM. – 3:00 PM., 50
Plus, Free, Senior Club of El Segundo, 339
Sheldon St., Call Pam at: 310-318-2856.
• Genealogy Club, 11:00 AM. – 12:00 PM.,
El Segundo Public Library, 111 W. Mariposa
Ave., Call: 310-524-2726.
• Maker Monday: Washer Necklaces, 12:00
PM. – 1:00 PM., El Segundo Public Library,
111 W. Mariposa Ave., Call: 310-524-2726.
• High School Teens: Pop Tab Bracelets, 3:00
PM., El Segundo Public Library, 111 W.
Mariposa Ave., Call: 310-524-2726.
TUESDAY, JAN. 28
• Pinochle, 11:30 AM. – 3:30 PM., Senior
Club of El Segundo, 339 Sheldon St., Call
Pam at: 310-318-2856.
• Board of Education Meeting, 7:00 PM., District
Administrative Office – Board Room,
641 Sheldon St.
• Story Time at Rock & Brews, 4:00 PM. – 5:00
PM., 143 Main Street, Enjoy Stories being
read by library staff, while there will be reduced
price adult beverages and kids meals.
WEDNESDAY, JAN. 29
• Bowling, 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM, 50 Plus, Senior
Club of El Segundo, Gable House Bowl,
22501 Hawthorne Blvd., Torrance, Cost: $8.50
for 3 games, Call Joyce at: 310-322-7621.
• Library Club: Milk & Cookies, 3:30 PM. –
4:30 PM., for ages 5-10, El Segundo Public
Library, 111 W. Mariposa Ave., Call: 310-
524-2726.
• Evening Book Discussion: Less by Andrew
Sean Greer, 6:30 PM., El Segundo Public
Library, 111 W. Mariposa Ave., Call: 310-
524-2728.
• Citizens Bond Oversight Committee, 6:30
PM. - 8:00 PM., District Administrative
Office – Board Room, 641 Sheldon St. •
Your Neighborhood
Therapist
Dear Neighborhood Therapist: Our five-
year-old daughter has had serious health
problems since birth. Her diet is highly
restricted and she requires frequent doctor
visits. She has already had several surgeries,
and will probably require at least two more
major surgeries before her 18th birthday.
Meanwhile, she has developed into a sweet,
bright little girl who is the light of our lives.
Lately she has been having intense meltdowns
and has real trouble calming down. I lose
my patience even though I know how hard
it is for her. Therapists say she has a lot of
anxiety. We need help. Is there anything we
can do to make this easier?
- C.C., South Bay
C.C.: We spoke and you gave me some additional
details. Your situation is really tough.
Your daughter and family have also endured
several kinds of therapy and evaluations; a
battle with lawyers and the school system;
and doctors who poke, prod, stick and cut.
It is not surprising that anxiety is contributing
to major meltdowns. Stopping treatment is
not an option, so the question is reduced to,
“How do we handle this unavoidable anxiety?”
That is a tough enough concept for adults,
and far too abstract for most small children.
What if instead of “unavoidable anxiety,”
the problem is actually a large dragon sitting
on your living room couch? What if
this dragon feeds on fear and exhaustion,
and he tries to ruin your home life by using
his silver tongue to convince you to all to
scream and act out in ways you never wanted
to? He is formidable. He is cunning. He is
stubborn. As long as there are problems, he
refuses to move.
What if, over time, you come to know this
dragon well as you observe his methods? For
example, you may have discovered that he acts
up more often near doctors’ visits, whispering
to your daughter that she should worry about
everything and listen to nobody while flicking
your ears until you snap. What if, upon close
watch, you all begin to notice signs of the
dragon’s weaknesses? Perhaps laughter makes
him freeze, or love drowns out his roar. Is it
possible to prepare for these moments? Is it
possible to learn to trick the dragon into leaving
you alone once in a while? If these are
possibilities, then could it be that you actually
do have some influence over the dragon?
Find any story that your daughter will engage
with. If she is the protagonist, assisted by a
loyal team of family and friends, she may
decide she’s had enough of the proverbial
dragon. With your help, she may send it away.
Tom Andre is an Associate Marriage &
Family Therapist (AMFT96089) supervised by
Chris Thomas (MFT78020). The information
in this column is for educational purposes
only and nothing herein should be construed
as professional advice or the formation of
a therapeutic relationship. Please write to
tom@tomandrecounseling.com or text to
310.776.5299 with questions about handling
what is affecting your life, your family, the
community or the world. •
Business Briefs
Brian Simon Fundraiser
at Deluca’s
Deluca’s is giving 10% of net sales to
Brian Simon’s GoFundMe page. A regular
contributor to the El Segundo Herald and a
featured singer at Deluca’s, Brian was recently
diagnosed with cancer. The fundraiser is this
Saturday, January 25, starting at 5:00 p.m.
Call 310-640-7600 to reserve a table.
Sleep Hollow Breakfast Club
Meets Again
On January 28th, 7:30 a.m., Smokey Hollow
Breakfast Club will be held at the Joslyn
Center, 339 Sheldon Street. Guest Speaker
will be Mayor Pro Tem Carol Pirsztuk.
Come join them for coffee, networking and
good conversation.
Henry Diltz and John Van
Hamersveld Open New Library
After Dark Series Jan. 31
Legendary music photographer Henry
Diltz and celebrated graphic artist John
Van Hamersveld will be in conversation for
the first program of the Library After Dark
series “Music Icons” on Friday, January 31,
from 7 p.m. to 9 p.m. at the El Segundo
Public Library.
The Library is located at 111 West Mariposa
Avenue in El Segundo. Call the reference
desk at (310) 524-2728 for more details. •
“Happiness is not something ready-made.
It comes from your own actions.”
– Dalai Lama
The State + Future
Smoky Hollow Breakfast Club
Register at Smokyhollow1.eventbrite.com
Featuring Keynote Speaker
CAROL PIRSZTUK
TUESDAY | JANUARY 28TH
7:30AM | JOSLYN CENTER