Hawthorne Press Tribune
Herald Publications - El Segundo, Hawthorne, Lawndale & Inglewood Community Newspapers Since 1911 - (310) 322-1830 - Vol. 63, No. 45 - November 11, 2021
The Weekly Newspaper of Hawthorne
Hawthorne High School Students Are
on Their Way to Becoming Karate Instructors
Hawthorne High School has two lucky juniors who get paid to learn karate, thanks to a grant provided through the South Bay Workforce Investment Board - SBWIB. These karate interns graduated to yellow belt this week and were awarded a certificate for their completion
of the white belt through the California Youth Karate Club, Inc. They are on the path to being able to co-teach middle school students through this program, a fantastic way to earn some money while exercising and learning self defense. Congrats Alondra and Pablo.
Your Neighborhood Therapist
Dear Neighborhood Therapist,
My partner and I are having problems
that are becoming more and more difficult
to resolve. It is as if each of us is digging
in further, blaming the other, and determined
to win every disagreement. This is keeping
us far apart, and killing all romance and
intimacy. We have gone through a lot of
changes in our lives: kids, jobs, and of course
covid, but this time things feel different. It
is almost as if neither one of us is interested
in solving these problems. We haven’t talked
about the future of our relationship, but it
feels like unless things get better soon, we
are destined to end it at some point. I feel
like things can get better, but I’m just not
sure that I want them to. Do you think that
couples therapy is something we should try?
– Hesitant, El Segundo
Dear Hesitant,
Yes, I do think you should try couple’s
therapy. There are a few reasons, but the
most important reason is to get help figuring
out if you want to try to get the relationship
to a place where it becomes worth it to stay
for both of you, or if you prefer to transition
to living separately.
I said “save the relationship” or “break
up” in a deliberately wordy way, because
I think “saving” and “breaking up” are
charged words, and charged words often lead
to charged feelings. There is not always a
need for charged feelings, especially when
peoples’ lives are highly intertwined and
their decisions affect others’ lives.
Relationships evolve. Sometimes, the people
in them grow apart to the point where it
doesn’t make sense to live together or be
romantic together anymore. There are countless
possibilities for why this may come to
pass, many of which do not involve bad faith,
wrongdoing or lack of truthfulness.
Too often, couples come when it’s too
late, at a point in the relationship where it
cannot be saved. One or both just want a
“professional” to rubber stamp a decision
that has already been made.
If you can go to counseling before the distance
between you two becomes too great, then the
work you do together with a counselor may
help you be able to steer the relationship in
the direction that is most helpful to both of
you. Sometimes, that direction is one that has
you being together more. At other times, all
See Therapist, page 4
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