EL SEGUNDO HERALD February 6, 2020 Page 3
Police Reports
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Obituaries
Elizabeth (Beth) A. Botting
Elizabeth (Beth) A. Botting, 89, passed away
on January 31, 2020 at 12:40 am at Sunrise
of Dresher in Dresher, PA after a brief illness.
Beth was born on March 4, 1930 in Oneida,
NY to George and Josephine Ahrens. Growing
up, Beth often visited her grandparents
at the Hanford Mill in East Meredith, NY.
She enjoyed many years of teaching at North
School in Hermosa Beach, CA.
Beth was the beloved wife of the late Bill,
mother of three children (Carmon, John,
and Susan), eight grandchildren, and nine
great-grandchildren. As a 22 year resident
of El Segundo, CA she enjoyed swimming
weekly at the Plunge.
After retiring to Pine Cove, CA she and
her husband were fond of the many trips
they took in their RV. They provided camp
hosting services to many state parks in OR
and WA. Memorial service will be held at
Trinity Lutheran Church in Ft. Washington,
PA on February 8, 2020. •
Your Neighborhood
Therapist
Monday, Jan 27
A credit card theft report was taken at 1927
hours from the 300 block of Main Street. A
known suspect used the victim’s credit card
to make unauthorized purchases.
Warrant- One male adult was arrested at
0049 hours from the 500 block of North
Pacific Coast Highway for possession of
controlled substance without prescription
and one outstanding LASD misdemeanor
warrant.
One female adult was arrested at 0049
hours from the 500 block of North Pacific
Coast Highway for possession of controlled
substance without prescription, possession of
stolen property and one outstanding LASD
misdemeanor warrant.
Tuesday, Jan 28
A burglary (residential) report was taken
at 0736 hours from the 700 block of West
Imperial Avenue. The suspect stole a tire
from the victim’s bicycle.
A burglary (commercial) report was taken
at 1154 hours from the 300 block of Main
Street. Unknown suspect(s) broke into the
victim’s storage unit and stole her property.
A grand theft report was taken at 1344
hours from the 300 block of Main Street.
An identity theft report was taken at 1537
hours from the 300 block of Main Street.
A petty theft report was taken at 1834
hours from the 800 block of Sheldon
Street. Unknown suspect(s) stole the victim’s
amazon package.
One male adult was arrested at 0233 hours
from Pacific Coast Highway and Hughes Way
for possessions of a controlled substance,
possession of drug paraphernalia, driving
with a suspended license and one outstanding
LAPD misdemeanor warrant.
Wednesday, Jan 29
Traffic accident (with injuries) occurred at
1245 hours from the 300 block North Pacific
Coast Highway, vehicle versus pedestrian.
One female adult was arrested at 1957
hours from the 100 block of South Pacific
Coast Highway for identity theft and grand
theft auto.
One female adult was arrested at
2340 hours from Placentia Police Department
for one outstanding ESPD misdemeanor
warrant.
One male adult was detained at 0318 hours
from the 200 block of Concord Street and
transported to the Exodus Mental Health Recovery
for a 72 – hour psychiatric evaluation.
A found property report was taken at 0351
hours from the 200 block of Concord Street.
Found was $3 US currency.
A petty theft report was taken at 0413
hours from the 300 block of Sierra Street.
Unknown suspect(s) entered the victim’s
vehicle and stole sunglasses.
Thursday, Jan 30
An identity theft report was taken at 0834
hours from the ESPD lobby. Unknown
suspect(s) used the victim’s credit card to
make unauthorized purchases.
A forgery report was taken at 0859 hours
from the 100 block of Sierra Street. Unknown
suspects hacked the victim’s computer.
A grand theft report was taken at 0940
hours from the 500 block of Standard Street.
A shoplifting report was taken at 1138
hours from the 900 block of North Pacific
Coast Highway.
One male adult was arrested at 1902 hours
from the 2100 block of East El Segundo
Boulevard for possession of a stolen vehicle.
One female adult was arrested at 0110
hours from Imperial Avenue and California
Street for driving while intoxicated.
One female adult was arrested at 0150
hours from the 400 block of North Pacific
Coast Highway for public intoxication.
Friday, January 31
A petty theft report was taken at 0930
hours from the 700 block of Bungalow Drive.
The suspect(s) entered the victim’s unlocked
vehicle and stole his property.
A burglary (auto) report was taken at 0853
hours from the 700 block of Sierra Street.
The suspect(s) entered the victim’s vehicle
and ransacked it.
One male adult was arrested at 1030 hours
from the 700 block of North Douglas Street
for resisting a peace officer.
A vandalism report was taken at 1120 hours
from 1 Hornet Way. The victim’s vehicle had
a crack on the front windshield.
A male adult was arrested at 1651 hours
from the 500 block of North Pacific Coast
Highway for shoplifting and misappropriation
of lost property.
A grand theft (auto) report was taken at
1817 hours from El Segundo Boulevard and
Richmond Street. A Honda Accord was taken.
One male adult was arrested at 0305 hours
from the Redondo Beach Police Department
for burglary.
Saturday, February 1
A burglary (auto) report was taken at 0956
hours from the 200 block of East Oak Avenue.
Unknown suspect(s) broke into the victim’s
vehicle and stole his property.
A burglary (auto) report was taken at
2018 hours from the 700 block of North
Pacific Coast Highway. Unknown suspect(s)
broke into the victim’s vehicle and stole her
property.
A dead body report was taken at 1910
hours from the 500 block of West Grand
Avenue. A female adult was found deceased.
One male adult was arrested at 2039 hours
from Mariposa Avenue and Center Street for
misdemeanor DUI/DRUGS.
Traffic accident (no injuries) occurred
at 2015 hours from Mariposa Avenue and
Center Street, vehicle versus parked vehicle.
Sunday, February 2
A found property report was taken at 0924
hours from the 700 block of West Sycamore
Avenue. Found was a cell phone.
A found property report was taken at 1216
hours from the 500 block of West Imperial
Avenue. Found was a package. •
Dear Neighborhood Therapist: I am a
woman in my early sixties and I have lived
in and around the South Bay most of my
life. I have always done things my own way.
I do things like stop and smell the grass. I
get excited by the butterflies in my garden or
the way a single rain cloud moves down the
beach. I have lived my life trying to always
be kind and I usually put others’ interests
before my own. Sometimes people are unkind
to me in very specific ways. They dismiss
my opinions, and tell me I am “doing it all
wrong,” and they try to take advantage of me
in small and large ways, as if I would not
notice. Am I doing “it” wrong? And what
is “it” anyway?
– A.U., El Segundo
There is a word for what people are doing
to you: bullying. And I think what you
are experiencing says a lot more about the
bullies than it does about you.
Bullying does not end with grade school - it
just changes form. Adult bullies often appear
to be enforcers of the “Shoulds” - unwritten
social measures that are often both arbitrary
and culturally specific.
Enforcers of the Shoulds will go out of
their way to tell you everything from how to
peel a banana to what to wear to the beach
to how you are supposed to feel about Kobe
Bryant. Sometimes it comes in the form of
an eye roll. More often, it’s mansplaining.
In any case, bullies feel better when they
remind you exactly how far away you are
from their own particular set of Shoulds.
It’s more complicated because some of us
find the Shoulds helpful. We live in a highly
competitive, constantly changing society that
often leaves us feeling isolated or powerless.
A sense of belonging can be hard to come
by, and shared Shoulds like cheering for our
local team can connect us as a community.
The problems arise when we treat the Shoulds
as a single true way of being, instead of one
valid option among many others.
So the answer is no, you are not doing “it”
wrong. You’re just standing up for trying to be
kind and putting others ahead of yourself in
a world that glorifies power instead. Bullies
often mistake kindness for weakness, but in
choosing your own way, you have chosen a
tougher path than that of the bullies.
There is more good news: there are a lot of
people like you out there. I meet with many
people who outwardly embrace the Shoulds
but secretly want a life closer to the one you
already have. There are a lot of people - even
bullies - who would secretly love to smell
the grass, marvel at the butterflies and chase
rain clouds. You could teach them a thing or
two. Perhaps we should start a local Kindness
Club. Any takers?
Tom Andre is an Associate Marriage &
Family Therapist (AMFT96089) supervised by
Chris Thomas (MFT78020). The information
in this column is for educational purposes
only and nothing herein should be construed
as professional advice or the formation of
a therapeutic relationship. Please write to
tom@tomandrecounseling.com or text to
310.776.5299 with questions about handling
what is affecting your life, your family, the
community or the world. •